"This is my moment...this is my miracle" (quoting the movie 9 months). So those of you who know me well, know that I am a planner by nature. I LOVE TO PLAN!! I know, a fair amount of life can be missed while planning, but nontheless, I love to plan, make lists, get organized, etc. So Jeremy and I have been discussing how we (mostly me) would like for the birthday of baby girl to go. Granted, we have like 3 months before B-day, but did I mention that I like to plan ahead?!?! Anywho, I will have a repeat c-section on March 31st early am. And I have decided that there are definate cons to having a scheduled delivery of any kind. One being that if you would like any quiet time it's harder to do as a repeat c-section, I mean the line "I'm not sure when we're delivering" is only going to fly for so long! So when we had Jackson it was really all about Jeremy and I. Both our parents were there, my brother and sister-in-law, my grandmother, and 2 of my aunts. That's a room full of people! And while I love my extended family, everyone got to hold him and touch him and look into his beautiful blue eyes 30 minutes to an hour before I did. And yes, I know that's a selfish thing to say, I have subsequently gotten to hold him everyday since...but I think my mommy friends will understand. There is something about carrying a baby for 9 months and all of a sudden being separated from that baby that is difficult. So, while this wasn't a huge deal when we had Jackson it has become a bigger deal to me with baby #2, mainly for when it comes to Jackson. Now that we have Jackson I feel a responsibility to introducing Jackson to his baby sister and us getting some quiet time together as "our" little family before the masses come visit. We know that this is going to completely change our lives, but more so Jacksons and we would like to try and start off on the right foot. We are planning on jackson still going to school on the day the baby gets here, after she's born of course. We really just want to keep his schedule as normal as possible. The planner in my has thought about it a bunch and whilst my plan probably isn't perfect....it's my plan. And if there was ever a time where people should respect (I didn't necessarily say "like") my plan it should be on the day I give birth! Right?!?!
So I'm having the above conversation with my mom...whom I love dearly...and I'm trying to nicely ask that she tell my extended family to wait to visit until later in the morning after the baby gets here and Jeremy and I have had some time to spend with her and Jackson. And my mom looks at me like I'm 12, and in that "mother knows best" tone of voice tells me to consider everyone elses feelings about that and how that would make them feel. Seriously?!?! Are you kidding me?!?! I know she meant well, but I seriously felt like for just a moment that I was 12 and telling her that I wasn't going to invite certain people to my birthday party or something...and I was being told to not be rude!! I quickly snapped out of it of course and remembered that I was almost 30, have been married for almost 6 years, and am having my 2nd child....I can voice my opinion! And since this is "my moment" I hope that my family can respect my wishes to wait until 10 am that morning to come visit me...I don't think that's too much to ask!
So enough venting about that! In other news I don't think I've shared the name of this baby girl. We've decided...after much debate...that we're going to name her Campbell Rose. Campbell is my maiden name and Roselle is my grandmother's name...so an all around family name. Jackson was named after Jeremy's family, so we decided to share the wealth with my family. I can not tell you how hard it was to decide on her name....shesh!!! Jackson was a sinch to name in comparison. We had a list 15-20 names long....from the girliest and feminine names like Sophia, Charlotte, Sabrina, to the strong and sturdy Alexandria. But in the end none of the other names meant more to me then Campbell.
So to all the mom's out there....why did you pick the name you picked for your kid/kiddos? And do you remember the other names that you were considering? I myself saved the name lists to put in baby books!
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5 years ago
that's a beautiful name! Love it. I still have my 'name lists' but now I feel weird using them for the second one since they were contemplated for the first - is that weird?
ReplyDeleteALSO, if it works out, I think it's a great idea to have some alone time with you and your husband and jackson.
A big chunk of my labor plan was about NOT having any family or friends in ANY room during labor or after (or really until we called them.) it worked out nicely for us. :)
Stopped by to say hello...as Jax said i should :)
ReplyDeleteA friend of hers is a friend of mine!!!
Ouch...i can't imagine a C-Section...i did the natural thing, but i suppose i don't know any different...right?!!!
I pray it all goes well, and i totally know what you mean about carrying them for 9 months and not being able to hold them right off the bat as others get to. {I couldn't hold my first for 2 weeks as she was a preemie...it tore me apart}
I felt the same way about Maddox's birth. I think you should do what is best for you and your family despite what others think. I mean in the long run I think you would regret not doing it the way you want more than hurting your mom's feelings a bit, yes??? I also think they'll get over it pretty quickly. Do you need a security guard to stand watch outside the door? I'm totally in if you do. I'll even rent a costume.
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